The lead up to this year’s burn was, I thought, more substantially planed out, but as I was soon to find out still sorely lacking.
Ideas and work for a trip of this scale have to happen months in advance. When I decided to go last year, I bought my ticket almost six months in advance and had begun learning the necessary things around then too. I began buying things about four months in advance, and, as someone who has liked to party camp for some time now, had most of the necessary items and was lacking a lot of them also.
Just a side note, those of you who are close to me will know the names of these characters I’m going to be writing about, but, I’ve decided to go ahead and change their names. My best friend, Don, went with me last year at the last minute. After his experiences last year he decided that he must start attending every year he could. After the burn he made friends with two other burners here in Albuquerque, Gail and Abby, who were also first time burners last year.
The first time I met Gail was for Halloween. Don and Gail dressed up as burners for Halloween, and we met them downtown. I was dressed up as a zombie, which was quite fun cause the costume didn’t involve much outside of some makeup and blood. Don and Gail looked like lost snowboarders. Over next few months Gail was around more and more, and we began to talk about what we all wanted to do for the next year’s burn. Gail and her friend Abby had decided on a “hacienda.” It would be all inclusive and cater to every whim. Don wanted to hold boundary pushing seminars, and wanted his own space. I wanted to have some kind of bar or café so I could mingle and meet new people.
This is, more or less, where all of our troubles started.
Around January, we decided to all get together so that we could come up with plans for what to build. I had just bought my ticket as had Gail, as they’re up to a hundred dollars cheaper the earlier you buy them. Don has repeated several times that he was going to either buy a RV or a Trailer for us to sleep in. This was a great relief to me, as last year I towed a small teardrop with my car. It was not a pleasant experience in any sense of the matter. (If you decide to do the same, please be sure that it is new and in good condition. Older teardrops just take too much damn time to deal with. Plus a shower/private bathroom is king out there)
So we all get together at Gail’s apartment. Her friend Goose, who I really didn’t know but liked, was there at her place too. He wanted to go and experience this mystical place we had all been talking about like it was god. Goose, which is his nickname, is from Iran. He is skilled in carpentry and I thought would be a good addition to the team, having both the tools and space to build most any project.
We got together and started throwing out ideas, needs and wants. Gail wanted only one thing. The Hacienda. It could only be that one thing and any variations on it were scowled upon viciously. Drew really wanted a foundry exploration space, and so, with great reluctance, agreed to have a extra space added on in the back. I wanted a bar, just a small space for that and a separate space for cooking. Gail was insistent that this entire structure be made out of plywood. I suggested, because of the size of the thing and the difficulty in producing, we look into other alternatives like large party tents that you can rent. She got even more insistent, that her hacienda couldn’t be made out of anything other than what she wanted.
I had had enough. Don was also having tension with Abby, who was getting mean when she drank, especially around Don. Don and I decide to go off to get some food for every one, which would help to cool us all down. I knew that this wasn’t going to work. I told Don that what they wanted was just plain stupid and that I was going to go ahead and do my own thing. He was quickly coming to the same conclusion, as far as I could tell, as Abby was making the situation worse for him.
We came back with the food and I told them that I couldn’t be involved with the project, I apologized but it just wasn’t for me. I tried to do it as friendly as possible but the look on Gail’s face wasn’t a happy one. I decided that I had had enough and went home.
Months went by, summer came, finally. I had been listening almost religiously to Burncast, a podcast done for the burning man community. Every Tuesday a new episode comes out and quickly made my life less miserable. As a courier I have to deal with the worst weather here in New Mexico, and this winter was bad. The warm thoughts of the playa kept me going through some really dark days.